The Johari Window (Part 3)
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(otherwise you won't know what the fck I'm on about)
Funny z0tl should mention in yesterday's comments that the J-adjectives could be too flattering. Fear not, for every need has been catered for. Some other wise sage also recognised that the Johari Adjectives might be too positive to describe all individuals and came up with the Nohari Adjectives* :
incompetent
intolerant
inflexible
timid
cowardly
violent
aloof
glum
stupid
simple
insecure
irresponsible
vulgar
lethargic
withdrawn
hostile
selfish
unhappy
unhelpful
cynical
needy
unimaginative
inane
brash
cruel
ignorant
irrational
distant
childish
boastful
blasé
imperceptive
chaotic
impatient
weak
embarrassed
loud
vacuous
panicky
unethical
insensitive
self-satisfied
passive
smug
rash
dispassionate
overdramatic
dull
predictable
callous
inattentive
unreliable
cold
foolish
humourless
Same process as with the Johari adjectives, except I'm thinking that with this one, your "group" of contributors would need to put forward their chosen adjectives anonymously. Come to think of it, anonymous would probably work better for the J-adjectives too. But then you would need quite a few people, as the anonymous route would have been a bit of a non-starter with just me & Mrs M.
Choosing the 6 Noharis to describe myself highlights the BiPolar schism.
When depressed (anybody remember "Got-a-Gun?") I would go with:
glum
lethargic
cynical
selfish
withdrawn
dispassionate
But on a "YeeHaa!" day it would be:
irrational
boastful
impatient
rash
overdramatic
selfish
Anyhow, I'll get Mrs M to choose her 6 Nohari's for me, and dutifully report back on what I'm hiding behind the Facade.
(Hey, I just noticed, "selfish" made it onto both lists!! At last - my constant, unchanging self).
*this is a true story, not a BPG invention.
these ones are harder. i think we all feel 95 % of these on a bad day, or moments of many many days, somehow often at the same time... as ridiculously impossible as it is to be scattered and lethargic, well, not really that impossible at all.
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i liked how your sig other sees your positive qualities, it means good things! :) get that written down and carry it around in your wallet or something...
Would you mind over-much if I borrowed your lists for an EFL class next year? The Johari window seems to be a ready-made learning tool, with a bit of self-discovery thrown in to boot.
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