Thursday, August 31, 2006

From Mrs M

Wow – it’s quite freaky to think that people from around the globe are discussing you, how much you love your husband and whether you’ll dump him with a week’s notice! Just thought I’d pop in (unedited by BPG) and give my own perspective…and just to prove it’s really me, I’ve added a short audio message.


this is an audio post - click to play

Honestly, it’s not easy living with someone who has bipolar. But then again, it would not be easy living with someone who was dying from cancer or someone who stayed out partying every other night (been there, done that) and was sleeping with his secretary. It’s life. A disabled friend once said to me that golf would be a hellishly boring game if there were just greens – no bunkers or rough.

When you love someone for who they are, it makes it a lot easier. BPG is an incredible person, and I love him. Fullstop. No conditions.

Yesterday I had the privilege of listening to a talk by Nobel Peace Prize winner, Archbishop Desmond Tutu. He was speaking about religion and compared it to a knife. A knife lying on a table is morally neutral. One person may pick it up and use it to cut bread to feed a hungry person, while another may use it to stab that person. It’s a fact – BPG has bipolar, no escaping that. It’s the way you deal with it that counts.

I’d like to leave you with three seemingly simple, but incredibly powerful words, that if translated into action, making living with someone who has bipolar easier than living with a perfectly healthy asshole.

Understand. Accept. Communicate.

z0tl – sorry it didn’t work out for you. Lucky for me you and BPG are very different.

Thanks guys for all the support.
Mrs M

3 comments:

  1. That was such a beautiful post! You two are such an inspiration!

    that's really all i have to say,.

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  2. Dear Mrs M and BPG
    Thanks you so much for your input. It is so difficult to get the whole picture and it is important. One of the respondents said that people need to be educated and this is exactly how it is done. It surely gives hope to other Bps that it is possible to have a stable relationship and home which is more than so many have.
    Thanks you once again.
    Linda

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  3. Thank you Mrs. M for those inspiring words. I'm so glad that some of us have lucked out to find empathetic loving souls that love us A) Because of our quirky and even fun selves, basically what some people are just looking for in a normie, and B) have the capacity to still love and care during the ugly.

    You also made me appreciate my non-bipolar man even more, who, just like you is on the front lines of keeping someone like me going just by being his lovely stable self.
    Thank you,
    Tart

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