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I don't want to do this parenthood thing anymore.
Is there an opt-out button?
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IN PLAIN ENGLISH: Do what you want with anything on this site - just provide a link back to me. If you don't you will be haunted by 5 million green spitting demons for the rest of your days (and feel pretty shitty about yourself too...)
Phew...running out of right bar space here. Confirmed Widgetholic.
It's the toughest job in the world - no two ways. I don't know how old your daughter is but in my experience 15 was the worst age for me to go through with my daughter. All I can tell you is stop being her 'friend' and start being the tough guy. My daughter also tried the cutting etc but it was a phase. You will be surprised how many girls try it. Don't start dragging the big bag of guilt around. We do the best we can but there are just so many outside influences that we have no control over. Do the best you can - at that time - with the tools that you have.
ReplyDeleteI don't have any kids but I was one of the worst teenagers around. I lived in a small town and the only thing to do was drink, smoke pot & fool around with guys. I lied to my parents, stayed out late, everything. You have to get tough with the love, don't just ignore the problems. They won't go away. The friends aren't the bad kids either, your daughter is doing this stuff right along with them unfortunetly. Discipline & a hard line may be the only way to go here.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. Discipline and a hard line never worked for me as a teenager. I just stayed away from home for days in order to establish my freedom. And unfortunately there is no "opt out" button for natural parents. She is your daughter. I've had no experience with cutting but I'm pretty sure she considers it a valid form of self-expression. Perhaps you could direct her towards some better options: music, theatre and visual art immediately come to mind. Get her an instrument, into an acting class or supply her with paint, brushes and a canvas or two. My mom started me in guitar lessons when I was 14 going on 15, perhaps because she was worried that I was spending too much time just listening to music on my own. It's easily the best thing she ever did for me. I now have a collection of guitars but more importantly an assortment of songs written over the past twenty years or so that are really a document of my emotional maturation. I can play them and sing whenever I feel out of sorts and, surprisingly enough, other people often find them entertaining! Provide your daughter with a creative alternative to cutting and I'm pretty sure she'll take it. It's got to be less painful.
ReplyDeletedid my comment not post or did you take it down for some reason/ did it offend you? if so I would like to know so I dont offend again..... I posted lawt night on your previoys post.....
ReplyDeleteRaine - I would NEVER ever take down a comment from you. Is it this one If not, it didn't come thru.
ReplyDeleteThanks again for your steadfast support.
LMAO that was it- silly me- I posted in the wrong place- whats TWICE today I have lost my responses to blogs only to find em in places I didnt mean to put em:P
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